I’ve been jealous of my parents’ affection towards other children. I don’t like feeling like I’m not the favorite of my siblings. I’ve been jealous of my closest friends when they’re with other people because I’m always away from them.
Other than that, I don’t get jealous of others’ success. I really don’t. I’m usually happy for them. In the moment I’ll ask myself why I don’t do better, but then I’m inspired by them. I see it’s become too commonplace to trash other celebrities because of their success. No one ever thinks about the fact that they’re always missing family holidays and important events in their family’s lives. I laugh it off all the time because I think it’s funny that people who are doing nothing with their lives have so much to say about others. Why don’t you get your lazy behind up & ACTUALLY do something with it.
My parents always taught me and my siblings to not care about what others have. If you can’t it have, you can’t have it. It’s as simple as that. I’m never jealous enough to talk shit about someone. I think it’s so petty to do something like that. When I see my people winning, I feel like I am too. You are who you surround yourself with. I like to have genuine people around me, I really get annoyed when people are so negative. I have seen my friends with things that I want, but I’ll ask my parents ninety percent of the time, and they would say NO. As crush as I WAS, I moved on with my life; because it is never that SERIOUS. I make it a priority in my life NOT to be envy or jealous of ANYONE.
Imagine how good the world would be if everyone put all that energy into making their own dreams come true. We would kill each other to have what the other person has, but when we’re in front of that person, we act like their best friend.
I know some people think I’m jealous because of the advice I give. But that couldn’t be any further from the truth. I’m the type of person who doesn’t worry about what others have, I could care less. Base on the advice I give (I can be really blunt sometimes) some people see that as secretly trying to tear them down. I am the worried type of friend who tries to help sometimes it can come across that way because I don’t agree with you. I know for a fact that certain people just think I’m friends with them because I’m jealous of them. Keep your friends close and your enemies closer, right? Just goes to show how much they don’t know me at all.
Jealousy is the worst thing to carry with you if you want to accomplish great things. Let go of that negativity and empower each other instead. Cheer them on from the sidelines, and show them how big of a person you are. When you do this, you start to see that there is room for everyone to be successful. All you need is a little hard work and faith. Jealousy doesn’t help anyone. God doesn’t condemn jealousy he would rather us cheer each other on. Like I said, positive vibes; it’s what the world needs.
Use their success as you strive to be better. Look for what they’re doing right and try to apply it to your own efforts. Jealousy doesn’t pave the way for you, it just stops you from doing what you were destined to do. It clouds your judgment. You surely don’t want to be that bitter and angry person. We should empower each other instead, especially WOMEN we are always at each other throat especially when they are winning. Which I think it’s crazy, considering the fact that it is harder on us in the world to be accepted. I have reached out to some pretty amazing people who I see that are successful. I let them know that I am cheering and thank them for inspiring me. It depends on the person I will even ask them for some tips on how I can be better at certain things. For instance, I’m a big PROCRASTINATOR, so I’ll ask them about how I can get better. Instead of me sitting in my corner being JEALOUS of someone else success.
There’s the good and bad jealousy. There’s the good one: when you’re jealous of the people you love because you think they have replaced you. It shows you care. Then there’s the one when you’re just hating on others’ success. That’s the one you need to work on. It’s not cute.
Support others, stop the social media trolling, be someone’s cheerleader. Cheer them on, not just to their faces, but also when they’re not looking.
Saw this quote on the internet and I absolutely love it: “Jealousy is when you count someone else’s blessings instead of your OWN”. I think it is so true, that sometimes we get so busy judging someone else that we forgot to be GRATEFUL for what we have. Next time you feel jealous of someone else life, take a look at yours and Count your damn blessings