Lately, I’ve seen that a lot of people would lose a special someone in their lives around the most fantastic time of the year. Which makes it ten times harder to enjoy the holidays.
Let me start by saying I am sorry for your loss. I feel your pain deeply, and I know nothing seems to make sense or have the same value.
Some of you will probably ask what does she knows about it… Well, last year around this time I was constantly, and my house was not in the holiday spirits. People were so worried that they kept on calling us to see if we were home.
If I could go back to last year after losing my dad, I would have celebrated the holiday so know could have had the opportunity to remember the life of my father and enjoy the company of those that I still have around. It did cross my mind, but it didn’t feel right to do so. Losing a father, a child, a significant other or anyone close to you for that matter is never easy. It’s just the feeling of emptiness you get it feels like the person had just died. When I was growing up, my parents valued Christmas around the house. My most memorable moment with my family is the holidays. We would usually spend it together as a unit.
Christmas at my house is not about gifts. My parents stop with the Santa nonsense at a very early age, which is fine by me. My Parents always make sure that the holiday’s spirits are very positive even if things weren’t as bright we ALWAYS enjoy it. So for us last year it was so hard, we didn’t have any family dinner or a Christmas tree. Anyone who’s close to me will say that Christmas is MY FAVORITE holiday which was so strange to me and knowing how my mother loves that but it was so hard to do anything without crying…
I know celebrating the holidays isn’t what you have in mind but make sure in honor of the lives you’ve lost, celebrate with the ones who are still alive. I wish someone had forced me to go out instead of sitting there crying myself to sleep. If you love the person for sure you should celebrate them not by sitting around and cry all the time. Get up and enjoy yourself! That’s what they would have wanted you to do. By no means am I saying not to feel the pain or cry. Please do so because it truly helps but at the same time allow you to feel the joy of the Holidays. Celebrating the holidays doesn’t mean that you forgot about them, it means that you are honoring them in the best way possible. This year I made a promise to myself to have best Christmas and New Years; I owe it to myself and my dad. Believe it or not the people wouldn’t want to see us hurting or in that state of mind. I’m deeply sorry for everyone that has lost a special someone; I share the pain with you. I know it’s the first holidays without them, for that matter it will be a hundred times harder to accept everything. We surely don’t understand why certain things happen and probably will never do. Make sure you are surrounded by the best people who will truly help you. Prayers, Meditations, Yoga, and reading are some of the things that I know that help. Cherish the memories that you’ve had with them and carry them along with you. Some things are beyond our control.
“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.” Let this become your everyday prayer so you can keep going every time It gets hard…
My condolences to everyone that have lost someone; especially the ones that we lost due to an act of violence. With that being said I’m sending you my love all the way from my little island😘🇭🇹❤️.
Stay strong and cherish the Memories. I will keep you in my prayers whoever is hurting.
XOXO, Love you Love bugs